9.22.2012

SWEDEN N STUFF


Okay so yeah. I am sorry for not writing sooner. But you know, things and reasons. I have no idea how to start a post of everything that's happened in the past five weeks, so I'm just gonna go with it and hope the narrative takes a shape on its own.
Week 1. On August 13th I left for Paris. I cried a whole lot in the airport and the day before as well. I was sick and had a fever (why not!). The people doing security check always seem so jaded by crying people. They must see that shit every day. I got to Paris the next day, and I took the train from CDG to Jess' house in Bastille. I had to change trains twice and go up and down, no exaggeration, 7 billion flights of stairs. When I got to wifey's house, I have rarely felt so happy.
I spent 10 days in Paris with Jess, going to parks, taking pictures, and eating ice-cream. We went to many clubs and I met a lot of cool people. Paris is awesome in August; there's barely anyone there and you don't bump into dumb tourists in the streets. I met a couple of high school friends. Jess and I watched a lot of Buffy (duh duhd uhd).



The second day of my stay in Paris, Jess and I went to a friend's apartment and there was a girl there from Bolivia. This chick was strange, I thought. I said something to her in Spanish and she wouldn't answer me back. She asked me what I was doing in Paris about 5 times in 15 minutes, while relentlessly sipping on her white wine and littering the floor with cigarette ashes, much to the home owner's chagrin. Huh. The apartment had a nice mix of people from all over, 70% native English speakers, I would say. Bolivian girl, who I later found out was 34 or some shit, kept being loud and asking everybody the same questions, tuning out the answers, I guess. At one point, as we were all having the best time ever ever, she decides to start speaking (awful) French (two people there spoke no French at all) and insisting we all do the same because we were “in Paris to learn the culture.” Wow, I had no idea! I thought I was there to hang with my bros and smoke mad weed, but whatever. We tried to ignore her, but bitch was so insistent (to not say ANNOYING AS FUCK) that she actually drove everybody out. I can now honestly say that I have met the most annoying person on the planet. Then I decided that I will never again let anybody ruin my buzz ever again because life is short and buzzes are expensive.

Well, maybe not all of them.

Jess and I had many yummy foods and made fun of people. She gave me good advice and I cried when I left. After a ridiculously hard trip to the airport, I got in my plane to Stockholm.
I got here August 26th, which was a Saturday. My friend Mattias picked me up from the bus station. With a car. Instant win. He took me to a rave in a park. I was in a rave within one and a half hours of my landing in Stockholm.
Week 2. We went home later and he told me all about Sweden. 1. Don't talk about drugs. 2. Swedes are hard to get to know. 3. Jobs are hard to find (no shit!). He drove me to school the next day and I moved into my dorm room. It's not quite a dorm, I have my own bathroom, but I do share a (gross) kitchen and (sad) living room area with like 11 other people. The kitchen always smells weird and the jury is out on my hall mates. Tonight there's a party in my building but I am lame and I have watched 9 episodes of Louie and ate old McDonald's.



The first week was orientation and that was nice. Didn't do anything. Went to a strange party with all international students in which the music legitimately sucked all the hairy balls. Euro-trashy-housy-Ibizaypop. UGGGGHHHH. I meet some cool people and stared at all the girls with green hair.
Week 3. I started one class which is sort of boring but okay. It's a lecture type, hardly any input from the class, and our professor kind of just reminisces about all the important people he's met in the film business. It's hard to keep awake (and by hard, I mean impossible, I have fallen asleep a couple of times). But it's cool because we get to watch old movies in an actual, comfortable, movie theatre most of the time. My classes are held in Filmhuset, which is this huge 70s'Architecture ugly-ass building that has its own cinemas, Sweden's only film-oriented library, classrooms, offices, and also the Swedish Film Institute is housed there. NBD.

Bam, motherfuckers. This is where I learn shit. (That entrance way is gonna be a problem in the winter. It's a 100-meter slope)

Week 4. Money is running low and I want to get a job. I have already applied for a few, but gotten no responses (this pattern continues until today). I actually don't remember many specifics. I went to a bunch of government offices just to be told I cannot get residency here without a health insurance card issued by Italy (because I am here with an Italian passport). I cannot get this card from the Italian embassy, so I am fucked. Until I get a job, I was told, I will not be able to declare residency, and, without this, I will not be able to open a bank account, obtain a cellphone contract, or any of that cool shit.



Week 5 or 6 or whatever. It was my birthday on Monday and it was actually quite shitty. I cried a lot because I have no money and no job. I have neglecting the SHIT out of my classes. I am supposed to read ALL OF THE ARTICLES EVER, but I haven't really. I feel a bit better now, although today was a waste of a day and I am a waste of a human being.
I got some presents though, for my birthday. My friends here (who are all German for some reason) gave me a tumbler coffee mug, a BIG cup for soup/coffee, a scented candle, a Kumbia Queers bag, and many kisses which I appreciate endlessly.
Okay, so my status right now is: useless, poor, and jobless. Hopefully this will change soon. But you know what won't change? My bad case of UGLY.

JK this is gorge

Coupled with the fact that I am apparently suffering from a late adolescence in my face, the women of Sweden are just incredibly fucking beautiful. Everyone says it, but it's actually stunning how ridiculous-looking everyone here is. Perfect skin, perfect hair, and, most of all, FLAWLESS FASHION SENSE. Ugh I feel like a deformed mutant who can only afford to shop in Salvation Army in some backwoods county 7 years ago. Also, I lost my iPod, so I have to suffer my self-deprecating thoughts super loudly when I'm in the subway looking at these superhuman models go to class in high-heeled ankle boots, tight black jeans, and the most expensive-looking sheer peach blouse ever, army green coat, with their iPhones, texting something insightful and funny to their perfect fucking friends. I cry in my head at least 3 times a day from lack of self-confidence.



Most of the people I have met or am friends with are foreigners. Swedes are strange and eccentric. I might be too weird for them. Or they are too individualistic for me. It's strange living in a country where everyone minds their own fucking business. I am involved in NO drama for the first time in my life, and it's legitimately weird and I have no idea how to behave or meet people.
Anyway, this post is weird, not funny, and mainly a mass update. I am scared, very very scared, that I might have to leave, because I can't find a job. I have almost no money left and I have to like, pay rent and eat food. I haven't been eating well, or regularly. It's like I trick my stomach for most of the day and then just have one big meal at dinner.

I miss you


But I like it here, a lot, even though it's fucking cold as fuck. The Internet is fast (I downloaded a movie in EIGHT SECONDS TODAY. EIGHT) and the people and buildings are nice to look at. Yup.

7.14.2012

politeness



I'm not really sure what's happening but I think I'm tripping balls. I took some acid last night and like, it's still going on. I think. I'm not sure. I mean I spent like half an hour investigating my nipple piercing. That usually only takes five minutes. I seem to be fascinated by my lamp (?), and I
I really wanted to write something but I can't remember what it was.




Being polite.

IRL.
If you are at a party that's in your house and you have asked a girl to play music from her ipod, that's cool because her music is better than yours anyway, but if you tell her that now your friend from Brazil will take over the ipod because she wants to see “what's in there” and something “less hip hoppy” or whatever, don't be surprised when it doesn't happen.
If you are at a bar and you are drunk and somehow we are discussing politics because it's cold and there's nothing else to do when someone tells you they don't vote or they are fascists, respect their democratic right to be those things, if you love your democracy so much, even though we all know that democracy is a lie and the captain of the ship has been killed by the unwashed crew.
Don't tease your american friends too much. They can't take it like uruguayans can. Specially males. Specially males performing masculinity and making you just a nudge uncomfortable with the way they talk about women and women's bodies while you sit there wishing you could pinpoint what is it that is making you uncomfortable even though you're supposed to be “cool” cause you're “gay”.
Expect drugs for free and demand them. Internally label anyone who doesn't have them or won't give them to you as an asshole/bitch who doesn't know how to have fun.





On the internet.

When invited to a facebook event, consider the “decline” button as decoration. The person who invited you gets a notification every time someone declines an invitation. It is considered good form to have a bunch of unanswered events hanging out on your side bar thingy.
Conversely, when you do accept to go to an event and mad people are posting on its wall, don't write a post on the thing's wall, complaining about so many notifications because of the posts on the wall because it's weirdly circular logic somehow.
Don't make rape jokes, but if you do, they better be actually funny. People really hate unfunny rape jokes. Because “unfunny” and “joke” cancel each other out. You cannot have an unfunny joke. So we're left with: “People really hate rape”, which is... yes. But whatever you do, don't defend the douche bag who just made the unfunny joke, even though he is your comedian white bro, because like, defending an unfunny offensive joke is impossible and makes you look part of the machine you are rebelling against.









Over text message.
It sucks that you'd rather hang out with them than with me. I am clearly better.
Don't let an obvious mass text ever be sent to your best friend. Ever. Write a separate text for them.
Don't assume someone wants to date you because they want to make out with you publicly. There are people whose egos need to be shattered, and you are sometimes a means to an end. I hope you enjoy the video I sent you, which is pretty much how I think you sound.


Remember this fucking movie?

I'm still really high. Radiohead is nice.

6.30.2012

the food issue

Trigger warning, ya'll: This is NOT a thinspiration post, this is NOT a pro-ana post. If you have issues with food, this might fuck you up. Read on at your own risk. 


For a while now I haven't been eating right. It started a long time ago, in December, maybe. Sleeping too much/not enough, at weird hours, in weird places. Falling asleep on the bus, at work,  reading, at the movies. During that time, I also started feeling less and less hungry, filling up faster, feeling full all the time. I had blood work done to see if I had something like mono or a... face parasite, I don't know. Nope, I was fine. In fact, my blood values showed no signs of me being malnourished. o.O








Anyway, things got worse, and it got to a point where I am now actually disgusted by food. I don't want to weigh myself because I look scary. I have no idea what my BMI is, but I know it has to be lower than 15 (normal is 19 to 25). 


The food issue passed through a stage where this shit was actually suicidal. I thought, even consciously, well, I can't kill myself any other way, maybe if I starve myself I'll die and it won't be my fault. I'm pretty over that now, but food, and depriving myself of food became a kind of punishment/reward thing. I love to punish myself for things when I'm depressed and this was one of the ways. I would go hungry on purpose, until food became gross to me. I would be hungry and eating, and at the same time, trying not to puke from the horrible nausea the feeling of food in my mouth gave me. 




I overcame (somewhat) my depression, but the food thing persists. Because I made my body turn into survival mode, living off the bare minimum. Hence, I shut down all the time, and sleep. Forever. You burn less calories when you're dead asleep. 


I went to the doctor yesterday, it became too much, to stand up from my chair and grabbing on to the walls so as to not faint. Every time. I am now eating those things babies and old people eat so they won't die (yet, can I tell you a secret? It is now 6:37 PM and I've only eaten some pasta and a small salad). 




I am sure this food thing is directly responsible for my weird sleeping patterns and my fucked up skin lately. It's incredible, huh? Eating is the easiest thing in the world, right? I used to LOVE eating. Now, it's a paralyzing, incredibly difficult guilt-struggle with a piece of lettuce. Nevermind the carbs. How could I train my body to do this to me? Or my brain, I'm not sure which. And what's worse, the way I look makes me super self-conscious, and I just keep feeling worse. I can't eat, I can't gain weight, I'm ugly. My face looks hollow, my legs like twigs, and my breasts are non-existent. 






At the same time, this is just the way my body looks now. A lot of body-positive sites and people make sure to only affirm those fuller bodies. What about me? I feel like the pale man in Pan's Labyrinth. I feel so ugly and hated and judged at the same time. A lot of people would kill to have this problem. A lot of people DO kill themselves to have this problem. A lot of people die to look like this bullshit: 


:(


Shit's sad, we're all crazy.

6.25.2012

puit

i'm pretty high on my sleeping pills right now. i wrote some tweets that are great because you can read them from top to bottom and from bottom, up. 




goodnight, sarah

6.21.2012

can i just ask you a question, miss?



In my never-ending devotion to VICE mag and their questions to random people on the street, I decided to answer their questions myself, because I am unoriginal and boring. But remember when I was in Paris and I used to write every single day? I think I want to do that again. 



WHAT'S YOUR SUICIDE SONG?

Pyramid Song (download - right click, save)


Also, maybe, Hurt by either Johnny Cash or NIN (this last video is a really bizarre choice of images for this song).

Yes, somewhere not in the face or spine. I really really want to be famous. 
The Fresh Prince. 
If murdered: I would like to be hung to death and make it look like a suicide. But then my friend or lover would not believe the police and would have to gather clues as to what really happened to me. 
Otherwise, I would like to die in the cold, cold snow. 
I am trying to think if I have slept with someone *not* working class... But yeah, poor people fuck better. 
Usually a coke and a cigarette, but if possible, a Bloody Mary will take all your problems away. 
Ham + Parmesan cheese + bacon + avocados + mustard + lettuce + tomato + lemon juice + salt.
Because they gave me a bunch of money there so I could know things. Because it is the birth place of many many people I love dearly. Because it has pretty mountains and pretty deserts and nice architecture. Because great musicians sometimes come from there. Because New York City, San Francisco, and Seattle. 

I guess another reason is that pretty slutty girls come from there?

Probably everyone. Probably me. But mostly all those people who perform female genital mutilations are on top of my list. 
Mostly men. And some women. But they usually get bored very fast. 
Yes. 
Probably not... because if the devil exists, then god must as well. And so must heaven and hell. If I make a deal with the devil, I will go to hell after I die. But if I meet the devil, it is direct evidence that heaven exists, and, sorry, but I don't want to suffer for ALL of eternity. If I was ever offered a deal by the devil, it would turn me into a devout christian. Talk about irony!
Not great, people tend to go overboard. 
Yes. We would have done a shit ton of drugs together. 
The really real world.
I've felt them before, and I have seen them in my dreams. 
A *male* lion, because they get to sleep all fucking day. Do I see some drool there?

WHO WAS YOUR TEENAGE CRUSH?

Heath Ledger + Julia Stiles
People who rape children. People who mutilate women. Fred Phelps. Robert Mugabe. AhmadiNejad. The People Running Fox News. 
I don't use them, I just flirt relentlessly. But my favorite one was from my friend who said: "Hey Lau, that outfit is very becoming on you. If I was on you, I'd be coming on you, too." It was gross but hilarious. 
Judging from the other day's post, crappy white female mcs. 
I don't know why, but he's so unattractive to me, he makes my skin crawl. 

WHAT'S THE MOST DISGUSTING THING YOU'VE EVER EATEN?

Mashed potatoes at a "restaurant" in Aguas Dulces, Rocha, Uruguay. It was potato-y water. Also, anything I find someone else's hair in. 
I... don't know. 
Yes. It makes ME evil. 

Mulan, fucking with gender roles and what not. 
These two bad bitches, too.

WHO'S THE WORST PERSON YOU'VE EVER MET?

A lot of people from my high school. Bad people, sexist people, racist people, homophobic people.
Cry for days, in all honesty. 
I would like it to be someone like Emma Stone, but, realistically, Tilda Swinton. 
Get laid, it's not a big deal. Do drugs. Do more art, write more. You have potential. Don't go to high school in the States so early. Visit your father's grave. 
me
Physically? When I got all these teeth pulled out. They were all fucked up and they wouldn't come out, so they had to break them before pulling the pieces out. 
I wasn't. It's part of the problem. My father once slapped me because I was being annoying. My mother didn't do anything about it. 
From the X files. 
Horrible horrible things I don't want to own up to. But everyone laughs at Mexicans jokes, right?

6.20.2012

PICA

Pica (play /ˈpkə/ py-kə) is characterized by an appetite for substances largely non-nutritive (such as clay or chalk).[1] For these actions to be considered pica, they must persist for more than one month at an age where eating such objects is considered developmentally inappropriate. There are different variations of pica, as it can be from a cultural tradition, acquired taste or a neurological mechanism such as an iron deficiency, or chemical imbalance. (source: wiki)




pica

A light lunch, a salad of mixed Swedish words,
blue paper chunks, peppered with tobacco.
Glossy nail polish juice, garnished
with a thousand fine pieces of hot pink glitter.
A fresh palette cleanser, flower petal
and grey wool ice cream, ideal even in winter.
The kisses of blue-eyed young girls,
dialogue from TV shows dealing with the supernatural,
and transfeminist post-pornographic blog posts,
-the slam poetry of NYC kids pretending to be Egon Schiele-
wash it down with sweet blackberry fountain pen ink.
The crusty mustard pages of old books and black leather jackets.
For dinner, the memories of rough pillows melting in your mouth,
literal finger-licking goodness late-night snack. 






This is the poem I had been working on. I wrote it on paper, which I rarely do. I am much much better now. But for a while there, it was like involuntary anorexia nervosa, man. Ta.

6.18.2012

john waters is probably a female mc



You know when you are not with a person and you think about the universe and god but actually the longest distance in the world is between your fingers because they're not touching? And you probably won't touch them again? And you can daydream about fucking them while you ride the bus home from work, maybe and how good his dick felt inside of you and the new one just isn't quite cutting it the smell of nice cologne on his prickly neck or running into his friends who pretend to not recognize you or involuntarily fantasizing* about running into him while you look like shit with no make-up on but fuck it! Do you know how easy it is to get a new dick? Do you know how easy it was?



I pretty much spent the weekend looking at gifs (did you know they are pronounced “jifs”??!?!?! blew my fucking mind) and videos today. I saw a terrible movie I found funny. I thought about boys and girls and the weather. I read all the articles on VICE and saw all the DOs and DONTs too. 

ugghghaghghghghghghg the synchronized back pattern is killing me (via.)

I made tiny lists in my head I forgot promptly. I got mad at my students for now knowing their shit. Now that I am a teacher, I am NEVER going into class unprepared, or miss class unless I am actually on fucking fire. It's rude and shitty and ungrateful. I thought about sexism a bunch and well-meaning dudes and how they never seem to get it, that horrible dread when you forgot you were a woman, you thought you were a human being, and then someone objectifies you, and then you just become a collection of holes with maybe nice hair. And they take pictures of you and maybe rate you on a scale from one to ten and you laugh and maybe participate but really you want to cry with all the rage while slowly choking the literal shit out of every man that's ever been alive. Except for John Waters.

                 

Did you know that John Waters is hitchhiking across America? He's, you know, mature, and just like, not giving any fucks, and getting rides from strangers.

It is never not okay to post a John Waters gif. Also, read THIS article. Speaking of VICE...


I've been a bad friend. I haven't returned some emails I should have. It's because sometimes I feel like recreating the stigmata with fucking nail scissors because I miss my friends so much, and telling them about my trivial shit seems not real and my face scrunches up but no real tears come out. Nobody wins.
Brassaï

I have a bunch of posts actually coming up. One is a poem I wrote about not eating food. Another is a list, because I love lists. Another is another post about men I'd like to fuck, but that's like a sore subject today, so let's leave it. Another is a post about how fucking insane my mother is and how every day I am turning younger vis-à-vis my relationship with her.

Dudes, I searched the tags on tumblr for "mother" and all I got was REALLY disturbing porn and pictures of Lady Gaga, so here's Joan Crawford, who is nothing like my mother. I'm more Joan Crawford in our relationship, if anything.

I downloaded 136 songs worth of hip-hop yesterday and spent 6 hours organizing my music library by genre. I tried to even google every missing album name (with its accompanying image) but that got old real fast.


I woke up sick today, bleeding, itching, my forehead is full of water and misspelled words
I made a circle around my bed with used tissues and old underwear
I listened to This Song 32 times in 3 days.
Wishing for Sleeping Beauty Disorder, just a bit under two months, is it? Today?
Jag äter mat, jag äter mat fucking inte. Jag äter aldrig? Gotta Practice.
Fake pearl necklaces and tight shirt collars
Some Things i Became Obsessed With Over The Weekend:



Iggy Azalea ft. T.I. - Murda Bizness
L$D - Don't Smoke My Blunt Bitch
Confesión Feat Eli Almic & DJRC by Eli Almic. I went to the best hip-hop show in Uruguay that I have ever been to. This girl, Eli Almic, was MCing. Straight crushin'.
Faye CU
Everything on rookiemag.com (again), specially this photo shoot with fucking with gender. I wish I was still a teenager so I could write for Tavi.
Pretty Little Liars. Yes, I watch the shit out of this show. Shut up.
Brassaï, Two Acrobats, Cirque Medrano, 1932-33
Brassaï, Paris from Notre-Dame Cathedral, 1933
All of Brassaï's photographs, specially these three. That french dyke couple (1932) is power. (via)




And, lastly, white cabbage salads at six in the morning, heavy on the vinegar.







*is there a word for this? You know, when maybe you lie in bed and you start thinking about the worst possible outcome, the scenario in which you would be the most embarrassed and hurt? Is this something only I do? Involuntarily fantasize? It's like day-nightmaring. Something.  







<3's back

5.31.2012

technology conspiring against me


Today was one of those days where every song I listened to, I could relate to. Mainly because 97% of songs are love songs, and 93% of those are break-up songs. The remaining 3% of songs are about murdering bitches, and I also feel like doing that. And mind you, I did not go straight to La Roux or Adele and just felt the lyrics. No, this was me sitting on the bus to work, listening to my “Top Rated” list, in random order. So, the rundown, in order:

Heaven at Nite – Kid Cudi. Because one of the things he told me last night is to stop worrying so much and to relax and let go. Because I can't, and I have not felt Heaven at Nite in a long, long, long while. A year? More? Remember that night we sneaked off to the woods and I liked you so much and I liked myself so much and the stars were clear and the river was cold and I kissed you in my mind? I do.

Sonnet– The Verve. This song is just super sad. I dig that.

15 Step – Radiohead. Basically this:

How come I end up where I started?
How come I end up where I went wrong?
Won't take my eyes off the ball again.
You used to rail me out and then you cut the string.

hahastop

A Well Respected Man – The Kinks. Because last night he sounded so secure and logical and mature when in reality we all know everything is messy and bloody, a deep well with dirt at the bottom that sometimes is warm like a blanket but sometimes is freezing and hurts your skin. We all know that.

Then the Skins theme song came on and it made me sad because Skins makes me sad (and like I wanna do a shit ton of drugs), specially Effy because I get her.

Gratuitous Kaya Scodelario gif time! Do yourself a favor and google image her.


Dancing Queen – ABBA. Once I made up a story that in my 17th birthday they sang Dancing Queen to me instead of Happy Birthday. It was so long ago I don't even remember if it happened or not.

Oh Well, Okay – Elliott Smith. “Haha, wanna feel better about your day? WELL NOT ON MY WATCH” my iPod. And Elliott Smith.


This dude had been ruining my life since 2004.

How Deep Is Your Love – The Bee Gees. Not very deep, apparently. Chhhhhhiiiiillllllll song tho. I enjoyed this one.

Never Going Back Again – Fleetwood Mac. One heart break a year is, like, standard, right?

Kids – MGMT. This one made me feel guilty because sophomore year was the year of this song and we were so happy for like two weeks and then I fucked it all up, I'm sorry. I think about this a disturbing amount. Congratulations on graduating, by the way.

Pétalo de Sal – Fito Paez y Spinetta. This is just a love song, but it made me think about all the songs that have not been written about me, about the lack of fictional characters inspired by me, the absence of paintings or photographs of my likeness. No one has ever given me flowers, ever. No one ever has made me anything. I have inspired no grand gestures nor art. A girl did write me a poem once. It was about how cold and distant I am. Thumbs up!

So Happy I Could Die – Lady GaGa. I miss Paris in the spring.




Suffocation – Crystal Castles. Crystal Castles makes me incredibly nostalgic for Smith for some reason. It was the last time I was kind of happy. Doing a bunch of addies and writing papers and having friends around. This song in particular is also sort of sexy at the same time, and it reminds me of all the sex I'm not having.

Trátame Suavemente – Soda Stereo. Translates to “Treat me Softly”. “Te comportas de acuerdo con lo que te dicta cada momento/ Y esa inconstancia no es algo heroico, es mas bien algo enfermo” Oops, was that, like, me?

Heartbeats – The Knife. Once I showed him this song and he was like, I don't really like it, and I was like WAT.

Imaginary Love – Rufus Wainright. Beeeeecause let's face it. I heard Schubert in my head too. It was all in my head, no? The way you used to smile didn't mean anything and I never made you nervous.



via suk.me legit website



Then I started listening to Wu-Tang and felt better. By the way, the above-mentioned songs, in that order, could be the worst playlist in the world. The shuffle feature can really fuck you up. I'll be fine, as people always are. I will not, however, be dating dudes anytime soon. That shit is fucked up.

Otherwise, I want to kill myself less these days, which is good news. As I said to Eva, I promise I won't go anywhere. I'm also eating almost three times a day, and like, food. Progress.